When he likes Asian girls but hates Asian men

I had a roommate in college who was like this. All he would do was insult Asians, complain about Asians in the library or cafeteria, make fun of Asian men, say I looked “very Asian at certain angles” (yeah), then he wound up “hooking up” with Asian or half Asian girls. Then in the same breath turn around and harass me, a half-Asian male. And you wonder why half-Asians are nutcases.

He was lanky, bald, nerdy. Just the classic sexually invisible man who couldn’t get non-Asian girls to sexually desire him, kiss him, or sleep with him, so he wound up going for Asian girls. Like most of my male “friends,” he harbored a latent bitterness towards me, for getting better looking women genuinely into me, frankly cause I’m attractive and bangable (though I don’t like to kiss and tell). I get it, I’m so insecure, I’m so desperate, can’t get the poosy, can’t get a kiss, let me just bash on other people to feel big.

These guys go for Asian women as a last resort to feel powerful and strong in their sexuality, since in their minds, despite being rejected by other women, they’re still “bigger than an Asian man.” But deep down they crave the validation that having a white / non-Asian woman see them as truly sexy, but they can’t get it. Oh, I just remembered, it just so happened all these guys came from money. Imagine having all that cash and cars and still can’t get a woman to truly want you – ah, the plight of the average male.

They also simultaneously hate Asian men because this is just classic low-desirability male behavior; to bash others they perceive as beneath them, which generally includes racism. That’s why you can’t hit a racist male and not see an Asian woman behind him. Life is hard, and when you’re insecure you must punch down. Guys who get women for free because they are attractive are always the most uplifting and kind – and none of these guys go for Asian women because of their negative stigma. Add to the fact that “sex” (if it even happens) with a self-hating Asian woman is never fulfilling, and mostly generally about money and practicality (again, if it even happens), and guys with Asian girlfriends or wives wind up being permanently bitter about the fact that not even his own Asian wife / girlfriend wants him. Truly wants him. There’s like a legitimate correlation between how unbangable a man is, how much he “wants” Asian women, and how much he hates Asian men; heck a lot of these guys are half-Asians whose own fathers were like that. Deeply insecure and miserable about their perpetual state of being unwanted by women unless they throw money at it.

Also there’s an element that I’ve seen where a lot of non-Asian men are terrified of women sleeping with black men, so they go for Asian girls subconsciously for the “good girl” thing, because when she doesn’t enjoy sex, there’s a 0% chance she’ll sleep with a black man. Yeah, I wish I was joking. Don’t ask me how I know these things.