When he likes Asian girls but hates Asian men

I had a roommate in college who was like this. All he would do was insult Asians, complain about Asians in the library or cafeteria, make fun of Asian men, say I looked “very Asian at certain angles” (yeah), then he wound up “hooking up” with Asian or half Asian girls. Then in the same breath turn around and harass me, a half-Asian male. And you wonder why half-Asians are nutcases.

He was lanky, bald, nerdy. Just the classic sexually invisible man who couldn’t get non-Asian girls to sexually desire him, kiss him, or sleep with him, so he wound up going for Asian girls. Like most of my male “friends,” he harbored a latent bitterness towards me, for getting better looking women genuinely into me, frankly cause I’m attractive and bangable (though I don’t like to kiss and tell). I get it, I’m so insecure, I’m so desperate, can’t get the poosy, can’t get a kiss, let me just bash on other people to feel big.

These guys go for Asian women as a last resort to feel powerful and strong in their sexuality, since in their minds, despite being rejected by other women, they’re still “bigger than an Asian man.” But deep down they crave the validation that having a white / non-Asian woman see them as truly sexy, but they can’t get it. Oh, I just remembered, it just so happened all these guys came from money. Imagine having all that cash and cars and still can’t get a woman to truly want you – ah, the plight of the average male.

They also simultaneously hate Asian men because this is just classic low-desirability male behavior; to bash others they perceive as beneath them, which generally includes racism. That’s why you can’t hit a racist male and not see an Asian woman behind him. Life is hard, and when you’re insecure you must punch down. Guys who get women for free because they are attractive are always the most uplifting and kind – and none of these guys go for Asian women because of their negative stigma. Add to the fact that “sex” (if it even happens) with a self-hating Asian woman is never fulfilling, and mostly generally about money and practicality (again, if it even happens), and guys with Asian girlfriends or wives wind up being permanently bitter about the fact that not even his own Asian wife / girlfriend wants him. Truly wants him. There’s like a legitimate correlation between how unbangable a man is, how much he “wants” Asian women, and how much he hates Asian men; heck a lot of these guys are half-Asians whose own fathers were like that. Deeply insecure and miserable about their perpetual state of being unwanted by women unless they throw money at it.

Also there’s an element that I’ve seen where a lot of non-Asian men are terrified of women sleeping with black men, so they go for Asian girls subconsciously for the “good girl” thing, because when she doesn’t enjoy sex, there’s a 0% chance she’ll sleep with a black man. Yeah, I wish I was joking. Don’t ask me how I know these things.

There’s no point in being proud to be Asian as a half-Asian

The entire point of being Asian is to NOT be Asian. So obviously, being half-Asian is just one step closer to “removing Asianness.”

That’s why most half Asians have a parent who was self hating, because they did not want to be Asian.

It’s not rocket science.

On top of being severely bullied by non-Asians, Asians I’ve met are also severely self hating. When you complain, they call you “white,” then go on to bully you for being an Asian appearing Asian male. The point isn’t to be half-Asian, but to be WHITE. To Americanize ourselves, Anglicize, whatever.

A lot of the things I’ve heard from my Asian family are shocking. Stuff like “I’m going to kiss every white person when I get back to NYC from China.” (An Asian woman said this; NYC is like 40% white). “You need to use your white privilege to take advantage of these Chinese people. (My uncle said this).

When I complain about my mother basically committing suicide to get away from my Nazi sympathizing far right dad, I get told that I’m white and that it’s not a big issue.

If you ever meet a half-Asian and wonder why he or she behaves in the manner he does, it’s because of this dynamic. We aren’t as a whole proud to be Asian, we wish we were white, just as our parents did. Ironically, a self-hating Asian person is even more fiercely pro white than most racist white people are. Half-Asians, often with white dads (but sometimes with white mothers) go out of their way to establish themselves as super-duper white, regardless of whatever this implies. Some double, triple, quadruple down on the racism against other ethnic minorities or Asians, or even half-Asians. I’m pretty sure Elliot Rodger probably would have shot Asian looking half-Asians too. I swear to God above, the next generation of hardcore legitimate white supremacists are all going to be mixed race.

On top of this all of the Asian women in my family admit they didn’t love their white husbands, but only cause they married them to give me a “better life.” This is dumb. It’s nihilistic. If love doesn’t exist, then there is no point in participating in the world. It’s the only positive in a world that is already cutthroat and filled with interpersonal warfare. It’s also heinous to encourage a biracial person to deny half of himself, to win favor from people who already hate you. Life shouldn’t be about heinous acts to simply survive, but it is. I guess that’s what my problem has always been – an unwillingness to partake in the heinousness. I like myself, have always been filled with love, but I have no desire to be here, because the world and its mechanisms do not fit with who I am. The world is not who I am.

The psychology Half-Asians with racist white fathers and self-hating Asian mothers

Here’s a video of a famous Youtuber in China who has a half-Chinese daughter (I’m sure he thinks he’s lucky to have a daughter, as do most WMAF couples).

C-Milk aka Matthew Tye Showing us He Only Hates The Chinese Government
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Ain’t really a stretch of the imagination to think how and why the kids would be f*cked up.

Not sure why I have to defend this, and when I point this out, I get called a misogynist incel. Even though white men married to Asian women like this are doing it precisely because THEY are incel, and couldn’t get a white woman to tolerate their looks, bad behavior, or general low social status, so they find an Asian woman that they secretly deep down loathe, while punching down on Asian men (the only men they feel are lower than their pathetic asses), and making fun of their own kids. Add to the fact that these guys wind up sexually frustrated because the nasty, domineering, asexual Asian woman isn’t attracted to him, like, at all, and even if she was, Asians are famous for seeing marriage as a commoditized amenity, with which love has nothing to do with it. Hell, I’m starting to think this is how most people think, hence I’m the only one sounding the alarms.

The mass of people genuinely think women are to be bought and plied with money, and that that’s what life is about.

We get it, life is hard, gotta marry the white man for the money; him being racist is fine as long as the Asian mom gets money, social ascension and whiter children, fine, fine, okay. If you criticize her choices, you’re seen as an incel, a bitter Asian man. (Even though my mother basically killed herself after learning my father was a Nazi). Such a nihilistic way of looking at life. At this point it isn’t even about the kids; it’s about creating life solely for the purpose of stabilizing a hellish existence and siphoning money off a man.

You’re free to say all you want about this, but now we’ve got millions of kids running around from this pairing, being trained to hate their Asian side by their own fathers and complicit mothers. How could this even possibly be good? Basically half-Asians are raised to be replacement white people – except we’re not, we’re half-Asian, which our own mothers did not want to be.

In what world is this healthy?

The worst part is that the reason why most WMAF hapas don’t talk about this, is precisely because they’re white supremacists and learned it from their mothers and fathers; hate on Asians, accept toxic, racist WMAF just so long as you get paid to do it. They truly do believe Asian men are inferior and that white men are superior. So when an Asian looking hapa complains, we get called incels and inferior, by default.

I’m surprised there aren’t more Elliot Rodgers

BMAF couple arrested after Hapa newborn hospitalized with broken bones, bite marks
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Hear me out. I’m not saying all mixed Asians are criminals, but rather that there’s a unique element behind men with yellow fever, and self-hating, vicious Asian women. I heard some hapa guy say this once – he was surprised there aren’t more Elliot Rodgers.

I’ve left details all over this blog about how my own mother wanted to kill me, due to being a “feminist,” and that she had hoped for two daughters. I’ve often queried whether WMAF or XMAF couples (couples involving Asian women, and not Asian men), wanted sons at all, instead overwhelmingly preferred daughters.

There is still a lot of evidence that this may be true.

Anyways, when some men go for Asian women, they do so with this belief that Asian men are small-dicked, pathetic, short, undesirable losers. I’ve heard my aunt, who has a white male husband that she never kisses or touches, claim that “all Japanese men are short.” This is the same thing I heard Steven Crowder (a far right pundit) say. So, not only have I had to deal with racist comments my entire life as a half-Asian, but the Asian women in my family are saying it too.

So, when a non-Asian man gets with an Asian woman who hates Asian men, obviously there’s a high chance the kids come out looking like an Asian male.

What then? Well, in the above case, they beat the shit out of the kid. Why? Well, cause he’s basically an Asian male. All you really need to be an “Asian guy” is have Asian eyes, or even some other features.

I’m flat out floored there aren’t more psychotic half-Asians of all mixes running around. After all, we have to endure being half-Asian in a world where literally everyone thinks it’s fair to bash on us.

The hapa “dating scene” is a comical mess (and a lot of hapa males are gay)

For reference, I’ve “dated” all types of girls, but basically, I’d be a virgin if it weren’t for women asking me out. It turns out that this was more of an Asian experience, something that I learned from my Asian friends. Girls can be sort of aggressive towards us, maybe because they think we’re shy. I literally have zero preference for what race women are and I’ve always thought people who focused on this were weird.

I mention that because I immediately get called “incel” whenever I talk about how weird hapas are. Whatever. I’m obsessed with this topic because I think the kind of casual racism that gets passed around by a group of people who are supposed to be “post racial” makes my stomach churn. Also since my kids will pass as full Asian, I want to prepare them for a world where this kind of thing is a reality. I also literally had a stereotypical racist white dad / screaming, suicidal, murderous Chinese tiger mom, so I know what that kind of hellish scenario can do to ones’ mind. I’ve always been super proud to be Chinese and the fact that there are hapas out there who can’t get laid despite claiming that they’re “master race Eurasians,” and badmouthing full Asians in every other breath while literally worshipping the ground that white men walk on – makes me uncomfortable and very much alarmed. Part of my super proudness about being Chinese is because my mother literally hated my father for being white, since “white men didn’t know how to study.” Why she married him? I don’t know, I guess she was unattractive.

A lot of what I think saved me from the fate of some really, really, really sad sack hapas (the kind you see around with no maidens, taking selfies in their car asking people to ‘guess their phenotype’ and other weird, desperate, sad sack sh*t), is simply associating with Asian men, so that I ultimately understand I was living the Asian male experience, not the ‘mixed race’ one. Getting pursued aggressively by women is the biggest slap in the face in terms of reality, because you soon realize you’re in a different boat from 99% of guys, so I think it makes guys – myself included – who fall into this rare quality, much more aware of the dark, ugly reality of the world, compared to so called “happy hapas” who never once got asked to their face by a woman to “F her brains out” (like I have, several times), and so don’t understand just how fake and terrible everything else is in comparison.

For reference, I don’t know a single hapa girl who dates hapa men. I’ve never seen it despite what people claim online. I know over a dozen AMWF hapas and none of them like Asian men, so it’s not a stretch of imagination to think that the WMAF hapas don’t (actually, I got stalked by a WMAF hapa girl who was clearly not interested in her white husband, and I’ve heard from Asian guys about hapa girls basically throwing themselves at them – but I can’t say I’ve ever seen an AMWF hapa do this). On subs like /r/mixedrace, there are always posts by hapa girls who ask “is it strange that I only date white men?” or, posts where hapa girls complain about how their white boyfriend is racist (something I’m familiar, given that my dad was racist, my aunt’s boyfriends were racist).

I’ve written a lot at how I suspect white men’s racism comes from their inability to actually sexually consummate with women, so it makes them bitter and unable to empathize. I think this happens a lot with hapa men, too. I’m saying, yeah, basically, even despite being in relationships, I don’t think white guys really ever get women truly desiring them, and this makes them racist. It took me 30 to realize that even people in relationships can be miserable and not have sex, and this is why my dad was so miserable. I think a lot of hapa males also are unable to truly empathize for the same reason: they view life as just a cutthroat competition, taking L’s and faking W’s until they can maybe, just maybe, raise their shot of getting laid or whatever from 0% to 0.1%. As I said, being poached by women aggressively (I have insane stories) makes you really, really, really, keenly aware of the world and I think, a lot more empathetic, for a lot of reasons (one of them is being bullied by incels and femcels who can take one look at you and see you smush immediately).

I’ve also mentioned that a lot of Asian and hapa girls and other non-white women who are literally asexual, all go for white men. I don’t know why that is. I think with such a cutthroat, asexual attitude towards life, they view social ascension as taking priority over love. (On the other hand, I’ve had girls basically come after me and other Asian guys primarily for sex – and none of them ever mentioned that they liked that I was mixed. They all were with Asian guys). There’s an incredibly overlap between asexuality, homosexuality, and this preference for white men – like, being with a white man represents “being included,” but disregards all of the better aspects about being alive on this planet (namely, loving everyone equally).

Given this is the situation with hapa girls, and many hapa girls have brothers, I can’t even imagine the psychosis going on with hapa guys. Some hapa girl on /r/hapas told me that “women care about kindness, and being provided with a stable life,” but then I think back to how Elliot Rodger’s sister was having loud sex in the house while he was there and I’m like, nah. I honest to God don’t think most hapa men can endure the kind of things they go through as a half-Asian male living around self-hating Asian women. Life is a sexual battleground, despite people claiming otherwise, and women can and will have loud, aggressive sex in the proximity of male relatives or friends – usually doing this with attractive guys – and leaving a lot of men out in the cold. This conscious or subconscious emasculation is more than enough to castrate some men and turn them gay, as a trauma response. As I mentioned – women are very, very, very aggressive to “hot” men, and I know this from experience, having had women ask me, to my face, to take them home and F them. Obviously, this doesn’t happen to most men, and you can tell this just by looking at a man’s “swag.” And obviously, the opposite of “swag” is probably, just, well…. “gay.”

Having been around a lot, I can’t ever really say I’ve known a hapa guy who has done very well with women, probably as a result of the interracial dynamic of their parents – white man (oftentimes racist and unattractive), and self-loathing Asian woman. I’m not sure why anyone would think a hapa son would be okay, given that most people identify us as Asian. I see a lot of these hapa guys online, and they claim they’re fine, but they wind up inevitably being gay or transitioning into women, likely as a result of their failure to self-actualize as a sexual male. Some black women I talked to on LipStickAlley call this the “biracial to gay pipeline.” Unfortunately, it seems extremely common among biracial Asians, either due to being so turned off by their mother’s vicious treatment of the father, or because they are so severely emasculated and bullied for being Asian in the same environment that their mothers and sisters were trying to integrate into, that many half-Asian men take to being with men to find love and companionship. I even have a completely neutral Asian female friend who mentioned that she noticed that a lot of hapa men were gay.

When you take into fact that a huge number of mixed race people are gay, it makes way more sense that they are adamantly so defensive of their white fathers and white men in general – after all, white men dominate the gay dating hierarchy, as that community is notoriously racist; convenient, because incels are also notoriously racist, especially against Asian men.

Coincidence?

You gotta remember, society is already racist against Asian men and this is not going to stop, like, ever; and to have women in your family actively declare they find Asian men unattractive for no reason (well, there are reasons, which they won’t admit; namely that Asian men are low status), it will have profound psychological effects on the children.

Another possible reason for so many mixed race men being gay, is because they firsthand witness the cold-blooded, gold-digging methodology of their Asian mothers (where they marry a white incel and categorically pretend that they are doing the best possible thing in life), and this may convince many young hapa men that love and desire from a woman isn’t real. Not even to be homophobic, but since there isn’t a gay gene, it seems entirely likely that it’s wholly psychological. And I think that it’s possible that trauma from witnessing a mother completely incapable of love, empathy or desire for a man, can make a boy hate women so much that he seeks a rather beautiful respite in male companionship.

Severe lack of popular, mainstream Asian-looking WMAF hapas and biracials

Can you guess why this is?

Society is racist against Asian males, but makes an exception for Asian women.

Asian women prefer, en masse, to marry white males – precisely because society is racist against Asian males, and they have been doing this for decades. There are hapas now that are in their 40’s. Hell, that’s not true, there are hapas in their 70’s, from the second world war.

So…. where are they?

A lot of people like to cite white passing hapas as proof of success. Guys like Nathan Adrian. But at least half of hapas look predominantly Asian. And so, where are they?

Well, the reality is, that they don’t become successful.

Because when your mother is actively working to “whiten” and “remove” your Asian heritage, “Americanize” and assimilate you, yet you get bullied and have to deal with endless harassment and racism for being Asian – how would you ever be able to overcome that? By relying on your (maybe racist) white father? Or… your white-supremacist Asian mother who wants you to have light hair, light eyes, and pass off as white at all costs, and goes out of her way to integrate with whites at all costs, which means talking down about Asian males as part of her assimilation routine?

Here’s a good example: Darren Criss, an actor who literally admitted that he’s glad he doesn’t look Asian. This is basically the metric for success for biracials. What a wonderful world we live in.

I often wonder how WMAF couples are able to have the audacity to think that WMAF hapa sons don’t notice these things. How could we not? It’s central to our identity. The fact that Asian women are world famous for marrying white, and only white men, with the ideal being to assimilate and avoid Asianness, how on earth could a half-Asian, particularly one who looks Asian, be able to overcome this?

White supremacists try to pit WMAF half-Asians against BMWF mulattoes

There’s a war of insecurity going on race-related, white supremacist spaces. As with all things, it’s related to sex. And sex and power are intricately linked.

Insecure white and hapa men, intimidated by white women sleeping with black men, try to compare the half-Asian children of white men and Asian women, with the “inferior” children of black men and white women.

They like to push the idea that half-black children born of the enemy, black men and white women, are inherently inferior to the children born of superior white men and their ‘replacement’ white women (“traditional, chaste, submissive’ Asian women).

But it’s not about reality. In fact there are probably 1,000x more half-black people in popular culture and sports than there are half-Asians. For a number of reasons, probably mostly because having a racist unattractive white dad and racist Asian mom isn’t really conducive to being successful, especially if you’re not white by any technicality. Even Obama said that his mother taught him that being a black guy was cool. What do WMAF couples teach their kids? That being white is cool; but we’re not white.

Again, like most of what racists push, it’s not about reality. It’s about basically incel white men being insecure about “BBC” and trying to find solace in their “BWC colonialist” fantasies about Asian women (the only women they can maximize their whiteness with). It’s staggeringly racist and it’s comical that it even exists and nobody talks about it. Now we’re just left with millions of Eurasians born from white supremacist parents, one of which isn’t even white.

WMAF couples hope for half-Asian daughters over half-Asian sons

All you have to do to shut down racist interracial couples is to remind them that their children will generally have a 50% chance to look like the gender-racial combo that they hate.

I recently learned that my mother had resented that she had two sons, and this would explain why she attempted to kill me several times by driving at erratic speeds while literally screaming she was going to kill me.

This makes sense. The average WMAF couple is rooted in the idea that the male in the relationship not be Asian, and be white. The white guy, of course, looking for his chance to feel desirable for once in his life and take revenge on those slutty white women who rejected him, hates Asian men because it makes him feel powerful to “cuck” Asian men, as opposed to himself being passed over and “cucked.” People in general are incredibly insecure, and look for any opportunity to punch down to feel better. Oftentimes, the Asian wife doesn’t even really help him feel big, since A) she won’t touch him, and B), unfortunately she’s just a backup plan.

Obviously they want cute hot Asian daughters, not sons. The idea of a half-Asian son looking too Asian throws a wrench in the idea of a white-male-supremacist relationship in which the Asian woman is bussed in to secure white male dominance.

There’s no world in which the average WMAF couple wants Asian sons; the idea is to reward white maleness, and Asian women just happen to be the ones most willing to do so.

What is yellow fever / an Asian fetish? (From a half-Asian males perspective)

An Asian fetish, demonstrated usually by a white male, is the idea that Asian women will give him the time of day when every other woman proves too “slutty” or “picky” to appreciate him and his whiteness. But in reality, he’s just unattractive.

Yellow fever is just guys who cannot get non-Asian girls, let’s be honest. Racial preferences IRL make a lot of people uncomfortable because any straight guy generally will find all types of women attractive. I have a good friend who only went for Asian or half-Asian girls, because 1) he tried to get white girls but was getting rejected (he was a decent looking guy) and 2) his sister was dating a black guy, and a lot of white guys feel intimidated by this.

Every single time, and this is not hyperbolic, there is discussion about what white men should do, when they fail with white women – Asian women (East and Southeast) are suggested. No matter how big a failure a man is – he is suggested to “go East.” They literally suggest outsourcing their worst, most unbangable, oftentimes hyper-racist men, to Asian women; and now there are millions of kids born from these men.

He gets to “save” her from misogynistic Asian males while being able to leverage his whiteness onto her to feel powerful and unapologetically white, and unchallenged, when no other woman will take him.

It’s no coincidence that almost every single male that fails to function at a high level and suffers from some sort of crippling ailment that affects how he demonstrates himself as a “man,” winds up developing an “Asian fetish.” When you have a male who is almost inexorably “weird” or unattractive – along comes the Asian wife.

What do Asian women get out of it? Well, a lot see a sexless, asexual, totally invisible male as a good thing, as long as they get white children and social inclusion out of it – without having to have sex. Many if not most WMAF couples do not have sex. We, the children, get nothing out of it, other than broken homes, weird parents, and self-loathing. Why on earth would a half-Asian male EVER be proud of coming from a literal incel father, and a self-loathing Asian mother?

WMAF don’t have sex

For some reason when celibate, unattractive white guys wind up with Asian women, going into it think they’re getting some traditional, submissive sex doll, but instead get an antagonistic, domineering, asexual woman who only married them precisely not to have sex, it makes these guys abusive at best, or more insane and over the top racist at worst. Stephen Paddock and David Chapman (the guy who killed WMAF John Lennon) come to mind.

Asians are some broken, toxic people, and it’s not fair to biracials, and this dynamic plays a big role in why many half-Asians are mentally broken. There has been no real benefit, at all, to being biracial, and maybe at best, some benefit in being an Asian guy.

Basically, some, but not all Asian girls (but especially the ‘white only’ types) can be pretty nasty for no real reason other than the fact that they’re totally asexual and self loathing – I am not exaggerating. I don’t know, but they come across many times as masculine and almost incelly. Asian guys will dump Asian women for being nasty or not putting out. Femcels, basically. I know more than a few guys who just couldn’t take the Asian woman’s behavior and sexual coldness and had to drop her. I know a couple very, very toxic Asian women who tried dating Asian guys but these women just always get dumped. My cousin is a 42 year old virgin and I’m pretty sure her aunt is like a 64 year old virgin…. the only guys who take them are these really rejected white men, or guys who got divorce-“raped” by white women. Both of their partners have ‘issues;’ one is a white guy who my cousin refuses to bring around to our gatherings because in her words, he’s ‘too ugly.’ In the other case, the guy was so traumatized by his (white) ex-wife taking his shit and leaving him, a 20 year dead bedroom relationship with an overtly hostile Chinese woman who can’t stop attacking him every 30 seconds with the most vicious words on hand, is a better deal. The common trend is that these women generally are extremely hostile and nasty to a shocking degree. Domineering, asexual, insulting, and crude.

Asian women in turn will date loser-ish white guys (who can’t get white girls, and are pissed that white girls like having sex with attractive men) because they can force the white guys into a dead-bedroom and not get cheated on. They can be as cruel and nasty as they want. The white guys who are desperate tolerate it because they have to, at least they have a “pretty face” (open to interpretation) that they can pretend they’re in a relationship with, when no other woman will take them. In many cases, the uglier and more desexual the white guy the better, because she gets what she needs: whiter children, social ascension, and doesn’t have to have sex.

On the other hand, non-Asian women are pretty forward about physical attraction being important; which excludes a lot of undesirable white men – such as Michel Houellebecq, OG king of incels, or Woody Allen, or Nicholas Cage, or any slew of alt-right fringe racist weirdos who hate “modern culture” (i.e., sexual culture). And these guys go for totally asexual Asian women who don’t care that these men are of negative sexuality. Asian women tend to hate Asian men being sexual, and maybe even hate that Asian men ARE more sexual than them, and that non-Asian women can love and desire an Asian man more than she can. This is the reason why WMAF couples always seem to have this incel like rage at Asian men and white women. Because that’s literally what they are.

One more thing; the astronomical rates of weird behavior in WMAF couples (including violence) is rooted in the complete lack of sex, love, and respect, which is at bare minimum normal in most normal couples.

You may think that I’m exaggerating, but as an Asian looking half-Asian, I assure you, that Asian women (in particular, the WMAF kind) in general, are the odd ones out, with the casually “cruel” and vicious way they put me down, compared to literally every other race of woman – and men, except for the incel loser males who could only get Asian women. Growing up around them will alter your brain to start to think that life is hell.