The terrible, terrible reality of being a half-Asian, Asian looking man – I don’t think people understand the scope of this

I am half Chinese, father was a racist Holocaust-denying Japanophile, and in general – many of many Asian friends are still single in their 30’s and in my immediate family, there are no Asian men / non-Asian woman pairings while there are 3X that in terms of Asian women + white males; (and it’s only white males, no other race, half of these guys are pretty openly racist, one of them pulled me aside and started talking about Chinese spies on CNY, then on Christmas was ranting about Muslims having their call to prayer and making fun me and my wife’s trip to Dubai because he believed we “could have gotten blown up”).

Going outside on the daily it’s probably 100:1 white man / Asian woman to Asian man / non-Asian woman. Any single poster here can leave their house and see this. There are 100s of posters here from NYC, so just go outside and look. In some cases you see even more Asian women with white men than they are with Asian men. This ALSO includes half-Asian men, who are lumped in with Asian men despite having Asian mothers who belonged to the trend.

I don’t see why it’s so controversial to point this out. There should LITERALLY, in 2025, be active attempts all across the board to increase the self-esteem of half-Asian men in order to properly welcome this new demographic, yet there is not. There has been zero attempt to assimilate Asians other than through the women.

I’m half-Asian, been bullied for it my whole life, (including Asian girls, one who told me my only chance of getting laid was moving back to China) and yes, married, but I think it’s getting to an alarming degree now because the half-Asian men in my family (past 40 in one case) are still unmarried and several of my best friends are pushing 40, unmarried, and have become embittered due to the imbalance, want to get a white woman “to balance it out,” yet CLEARLY cannot.

Past a point it becomes impossible not to ask WTF is going on. The message, ON PAPER, is that YES, Asian men REALLY are that undesirable. And by extension – so are half Asian men cause when people are looking for Asian heritage as a dealbreaker, they don’t care if it’s 50% or 100%. Asian women themselves have REPEATEDLY reinforced this message for decades and now here are 100s of 1000s, if not millions of Asian-presenting Asian boys.

How are they going to plan to prevent half-Asian guys from crashing out? Cause my brother had a wild crashout years ago after being bullied for being Chinese in the small town that my mother moved to (he was bullied by a white girl, no less; lest the Asian guys here want to pretend white women LOVE Asian men). The only other biracial Asian in his small town (Korean mother), was “randomly” shot and killed in a shady part of town for “no reason.” This is in BANGOR, MAINE, of all places. You can look up the news story.

I don’t think people fully understand the scope of this. It’s the full scale assimilation of Asian women into whiteness, the complete marginalization of Asian men, except the problem being that half-Asian sons…. look Asian…..

Couple years ago I walked into a shop in Maine with my aunt (married to a white man), the shop keeper goes “Are you Korean? I have an aunt who is Chinese, an aunt who is Japanese, and an aunt who is Korean!” Then he looks at me and goes “oh, hello! are you from Korea? Can he understand?” They literally assume Asian looking men are foreigners, while the women are there just to marry white guys. It’s complete insanity and there’s a total, complete gag order placed on talking about how bad it is.

Not understand how crazy that is, is beyond me. If anything it’s amazing there haven’t been daily crashouts since the 90s.