Some half Asian guy replied to my post about how many half Asians are a product of self hatred, coming in with the usual “we’re not all like that.”
15 second look at his profile reveals the standard Half-Asian male fare.
I call him out on it, and he doubles down on how he’s normal. I mean, what the hell else are these guys supposed to do? You only get one shot at life, so if someone calls you out, of course you’re going to deny reality. Some racist sexpat has a child with an Asian golddigger, or worse, a legitimate self-hater; what are the sons supposed to do? Of course they’re going to be like this, because that’s how they were raised; an entire childhood, well into adulthood, being subjected to the whims and dynamics of his parents.
My brother is a 43 year old virgin who loves Trump, worships money, and legitimately hates black people, and it’s because: A), he was around my father his entire life, and B) because his belief sets make him feel less insecure about himself being a 43 year old virgin that no woman ever truly desired.
My quest continues for half Asians who aren’t:
A) Extremely and proudly racist / Eurocentric / white supremacist
B) Overtly insecure / obsessed with their masculinity (especially over full Asians)
C) Obsessed with money and throwing it at women to generate interest they never got for free
D) Gay (see C)
Let’s be honest for a second, life is very hard, I get it. A lot of half Asians are born to these anti-feminist right wing white men and self hating Asian women, and you’re basically born like that as a Wasian, especially a male. You have no choice in how the world perceives you. By default a lot of them are extremely insecure about being Asian and desperately want to be white, on top of the fact that most of us have less than stellar dads in terms of looks. I get it; it’s hard. As I said, you’ll know you’re cute to girls at like, 5 years old. What are these guys supposed to do OTHER than overcompensate with racism and money?
White Dad Asian Mom - "I'm Not Racist, My Wife is Asian!" 
Rel. I have an incel white friend who got married with a Mexican woman, but once she got a visa she ran away from him. He can’t even divorce her cause he doesn’t know where to find her lmao
Now he’s dating a girl from Indonesia, but she’s ugly as fuck. He always says she’s very beautiful and so on, but srsly nobody of our friends thinks that, we’re just polite to him and not tell him
So it’s like what you’re writing, she’s a replacement for a white/Latina gf for him. The children will definitely look bad and have some issues cause he’s autistic a bit.
He’s not pro-Trump, but he hates Indians and is kinda alt-right so it also aligns a bit with what you’re writing
But I;m wondering, do the problems hapas have come mostly from genetics/bad looking parents, or bad parenting plays a bigger role? You always mention most hapas have an incel ugly dad and a self-hating Asian mom, so what if there’s an attractive white dad x attractive, not self-loathing mom, and they love each other and have a healthy sex life? And they’re not toxic, racist, white-supremacist parents etc. Would these hapas still have issues or turn out to be fine, maybe mid, but at least not mind-fucked by their parents?
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With some hapas I think the issue is just bad genes and the whole racist white dad / self hating dynamic is probably the cherry on top. And on top of that, even if the parents’ dynamic was “healthy and loving,” the whole racial hierarchy weighs on it regardless and has an effect whether people want to admit it or not. Like if an Asian mom genuinely sees Asians as beneath her the kids will pick up on that, I’ve actually seen this with some hapas with Asian dads as well. I mean let’s be real, being Asian is still seen as perpetually “abnormal” to the point so many Asians just want to marry a white person to remove it. The kid picks up on it, regardless of how the parents look or behave.
A lot of it just could be flat out racism, especially if it’s normalized in the home, even with casual comments like ‘oh he looks so white,’ ‘oh he doesn’t look Asian at all’. Like I was pretty normal growing up despite coming from literal hell in my home (my brother went the opposite direction, totally mentally ill, racist, etc), and embraced my Asian side, (probably because I was accepted by Asians / blacks), but encountering self-hating Asians and half-Asians in my early 20’s did so much damage to my mental health I’ve never recovered. And my mom died in my early teens so the damage she did was probably a lot less, and I was always distant and independent from my dad and relied on my friends and school groups (mostly non-white) to raise me. This isn’t including the fact that around my early 20’s I started to look way more Asian and I wasn’t prepared to deal with racism from self-hating Asian women.
I had this beef with this “happy hapa” for a while who claimed /r/hapas was capping and it wasn’t real and ten years later I check in on him and he’s still unmarried and all he seems to do is attack China and talk shit about China, and this is the same guy whose FB profile I found and he had some white girl with a white BF call him Kim Jung Il on one of this pictures, and he just laughed it off. Like past a point I think looks aren’t subjective and if you’re a hapa who is getting clowned on by women it’s gonna do subconscious damage to you.
I actually know a hapa girl who had this Japanese dad and white mom who are still married and still kinda lovey dovey and she’s the most miserable, self-hating person I’ve met. Maybe it’s from her dad talking shit about Japanese or Asian people or something.
Another thing I noticed is that sooooo many half-Asians are gay relative to the population, my honest to god guess is that the confusion, plus having parents whose relationship isn’t formed on actual love but money or something just turns the sons off of the validity of hetero relationships altogether. I’ve seen this with other mixed races too. Ever since I started thinking about this angle I think that close proximity to a golddigging mom may cause this.
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