Gay Wasians and “Invisible String Theory”

10 years ago on /r/hapas it was theorized that a lot of biracial Asian guys were gay, and I sort of just ignored them because I believed that it was probably genetic because I did believe that a lot of gay men were chasing Asian women. Foolishly, I believed that gay guys would use Asian women because the Asian woman wouldn’t mind an asexual guy who wouldn’t touch her, because she had bad experiences with Asian men’s sexuality.

Thinking back to my experiences with Asian American women, I now can understand that; because I was chased hard by non-Asian women while deep down wanting an Asian woman, and the Asian women I was interested in were almost universally hostile to me in a very emasculating way, to the point that I do believe that Asian women have a problem with Asian male sexuality. I used to have these extremely fine women ask me out and take me to bars and dinner and buy me drinks and the whole time I was thinking that I wished she was Asian. My guess now, 20 years later, is that this may have been my subconscious urging me to make the right genetic decision. Funnily enough, I actually only found some black girls on par with Asian girls lookswise.

I sort of balked at this subject of gay Wasians but was interested in it because my father was obsessed with gay men to an insane degree which I found weird because I viewed gay guys as a non-threat.

After moving to China however I noticed that gays weren’t really prevalent until recently; most couples I see are lesbian couples, and only in the last 3 or 4 years have I been seeing more gay guys, and there seems to be a really strong taint of misogyny in Chinese gays. Last night in a very bougie Western market I saw this Chinese guy and a white guy walk in, and a Chinese woman working there greeted him, and he yelled at her not to talk to him. My immediate thought was, this guy absolutely hates Chinese women, and probably because they view Chinese women as golddiggers.

So my guess is, that gay white men who go for Asian women, are just incels who have given up on the idea of a genuine, non-transactional relationship with a white woman, and Asian women are looking for a non-sexual white guy with money who is incapable of cheating. A true match made in hell. A lot of these white guys get with Asian women as a last ditch on a woman, but wind up with her not finding him attractive, so he just either becomes violent or goes all the way into men.

It’s interesting because looking back over 11 years at the old posts on /r/hapas, there were posts like this that I missed completely. I thought they were funny and ignored them just reading them in passing but this is actually crazy to realize. I do realize how lucky I was to have had women chase me even when I was broke, and I never got the impression it was about anything other than my appearance. So my running theory now is that many Wasian men are gay because they inherit physical unattractiveness from their white fathers and realize fairly early that their shot at being “attractive” is either pay heavily for it, or, never have a woman truly desire them.

I mean, this really scares me to my core. The first time I learned I was cute to girls was like 10, but now I think it starts for some guys even younger. Here’s a video of a Blasian girl with an Asian dad (she identifies as Asian, btw, which is hilarious compared to Wasians) who had a crush on an Asian guy at 5 years old and went on to marry him after chasing him at 17. And she’s pretty clear that it was about looks. The fact that I can relate to that is scary, because it now dawns on me that maybe this played a part in my mom’s hatred of me – representing Asian male sexuality and attractiveness.

I mean, think about it this way; we’re 60 years deep into the sexual revolution and female choice; at this point the whole idea of “not needing a man for money” is embedded in society and basically in the western world, your only real shot as a man at finding a woman who actually loves you, let alone tolerates you, is to be physically hot, which is decided at like 5 years old (even according to this Blasian woman). What the hell are the chopped sons of white losers and Asian asexual women supposed to do?

To think that there are a lot of guys out there that are genuinely invisible to women really terrifies me and deep down that’s why I’m so obsessed with this subject.

Also, I mean this with the utmost intention and sincerity: I am not promoting hatred against LGBT or gay people. I’m just interested in this subject, but in a different way than my father was, who HATED gay guys; but I may even think now that my dad was obsessed with this subject because he understood it as a “way out,” as well.